Everyone wants to find that special someone. The man of your dreams – your Prince Charming – your Barack. Before you and Bae settle down and get very serious with your own #relationshipgoals, here’s a list of things I recommend you do, by yourself, to take “ME” time to a whole ‘nother level. After all, if you can’t enjoy your own company, who else will?
Go to the movies.
Have you ever watched a trailer and said, “I have to see this movie but I know no one will watch it with me.” Well seize the moment and go see it alone. Treat yourself to a Sunday matinee and enjoy the movie you otherwise wouldn’t have seen. Stuff your face with popcorn, soda, candy, whatever you want. After all, who’s there to judge you?
Spend an afternoon at a coffee shop.
Grab a good book or a few magazines and latte the day away. The key is enjoying your “ME” time, so keep the social media browsing to a minimum. Just enjoy yourself, your cup of joe, and your literature of choice.
There’s a point in time after college and before marriage that I think everyone should live alone for at least a year. This is when I really learned responsibility and gained a level of respect for the effort that goes into maintaining a home/apartment. Now that my fiance’ and I live together, I appreciate his company that much more and I don’t consume my head with thoughts like, what would life be like if I lived all by myself. If you don’t do anything else on this list, live alone.
Before you shun this idea, hear me out (and no, visiting your parents for the holidays doesn’t count). I mean, sit down, pick a destination you’ve always wanted to visit, and plan a trip. Look into tours, excursions, local places to eat, the whole 9. I spent three days in Las Vegas without a single, solitary care in the world. I made sure I was safe and never told people that I met that I was alone, but I had the time of my life without anyone by my side. It was so much fun that I’m already planning my next solo trip. Again, safety is a priority, so if you don’t feel safe traveling alone, don’t.
Eat at a restaurant alone.
This is an activity that I frequently do, especially when I’m writing. (I’m convinced that there’s something about $1 margaritas and Taco Tuesday that get my creative juices flowing). Grab that same book that you took to the coffee shop – I know you didn’t stay in Starbucks and finish it. Go to a nice restaurant and treat yourself to a nice glass of wine and dinner.
(for sports fans) Go to a sporting event.
If you’re anything like me, you can enjoy a good game anywhere. Back in 2015, my job sent me to San Francisco so I went to a Giants game by myself. I had a great seat near home plate and made friends with some fellow Giants fans. One of the girls who was there on a date asked me why I was at the game alone. I replied, “Simple. If I can’t have fun alone, how can I expect anyone to have fun with me?”
Volunteer at your favorite nonprofit organization.
Volunteering is so important to me – and I talk about it a lot. One day, look up your favorite organization and find out how to spend your time supporting a cause that’s important to you.
Learn a new hobby.
I mean, why not? Be it blogging (Yes! Blogging!), knitting, scrap-booking, or photography… do something you love. Who knows? It may turn into a passive income.
Enjoy a day at the spa.
You don’t always need your girlfriends for a spa day. Make that appointment and treat yourself to your favorite spa service. Top it off with a mani/pedi too. Combining your spa day with dinner would make for an awesome “ME” day.
Get drunk and binge watch your favorite TV shows.
…because your life isn’t perfect and you have to adult for 364 other days every year. (Disclaimer: please drink responsibly. This is not recommended for women who are pregnant or nursing.)
Note to readers: I have done everything on this list personally, and trust me – it’s fun and freaking amazing. What else do you like to do by yourself? Drop some ideas in the comments.