“Success is nothing more than living your life according to your own truth and your own terms.”
I just watched Barry, a movie streaming on Netflix about President Obama’s internal battle with self-identity during a pivotal year at Columbia University in the 1980’s. Being the son of biracial parents, Barry struggled to fit in anywhere. He adopted the nickname “Invisible Man” partly due to his collegiate identity crisis. He finally embraced his unconventional political views and blended cultural interests, which in encouraging to all of us. During a series of plot twists, he realized that he did not have to falsely blend in with groups of people in order to feel accepted, but to instead be himself and dismiss the idea of societal satisfaction.
Many of us have heard the phrase, “live in your truth” over the years. I always thought it was fitting when one of my girls did something that contradicted what society deemed acceptable. It wasn’t until this year that I really reflected on what that expression really meant.
Living in your truth means that you are balanced. Like Barry, you don’t seek the feeling of completion from your friends or the opposite sex. Your source of validation comes from yourself; it comes from within. Embrace what you believe in. Embrace what success means to you. Embrace your own definition of beauty. Embrace all the things that set you apart from popular America.
The key to living in your own truth and feeling a sense of fulfillment is simple: forget what others think about you and support what others think of themselves. Some of my closest friends have very different religious views, different opinions of relationships, and even share different thoughts on success. Personally, I’m here for every minute of our dissimilarities because we’re all living in our own respective reality and it’s a great to be a part of.
In my current journey through self-love and self-healing, living in an honest mental space provides such peace of mind. I defined my truth and love every moment of living in it. My acceptance comes from myself and yours should too. Then encourage our fellow Kings and Queens to do the same – embrace acceptance from within instead of from Facebook likes or Instagram double taps.
If you don’t do anything else in 2018, free YOURSELF. Live in honesty. Live in your Truth.